In our gospel from Luke Jesus gives a lesson in honor/humility of seating at a dinner. Now in our culture, seating at a dinner is often foreign to our experience, other than weddings or other large events. At these events there is usually a 'head table' and then close to that the tables for the secondarily important people, and then tables out from that for the rest of the guests. Now I've never actually been to a wedding where someone has the guts to go right up to the head table and have a seat. Can you imagine what that would be like? Yet Jesus teaches that people should not sit in places of honor but "when you are invited, go and sit down at the lowest place, so that when your host comes, he may say to you, 'Friend, move up higher'; then you will be honored in the presence of all who sit at the table with you. For all who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted." No one I know (at least I don't think) would have the gall to sit at the head table at a wedding or banquet, even if they inwardly wanted to. Yet it has also never been my experience that I sat at a table and the bride or groom came and told me to sit at a table closer - it is generally known before the event who will sit where. So this part of the gospel sounds funny to my 21st century ears. But that was not the whole lesson.
Jesus went on to talk about who you invite to your banquets. And this is where it gets really surprising and hard. "When you give a luncheon or a dinner, do not invite your friends or your brothers or your relatives or rich neighbors, in case they may invite you in return, and you would be repaid. But when you give a banquet, invite the poor, the crippled, the lame, and the blind. And you will be blessed, because they cannot repay you, for you will be repaid at the resurrection of the righteous." What would the guest list for the next wedding you are invited to look like if we took Jesus' words seriously and invited the poor, the crippled, the lame, and the blind? I was just at a wedding a couple weeks ago and the guest list included family mostly, but also a few friends. It has been the same at every other wedding I've been to (including my own).
Jesus seems to be pushing, once again, at our tendency to turn inward and make the banquet and celebration all about me, my family, and us. But we are in the season of texts focusing on love of God and love of neighbor, and Jesus is forever pushing us to expand our definition of 'neighbor.' And in my estimation, this portion of the text especially speaks to our culture today, since Jesus talks about reciprocity.
In our culture, it seems as if it is often all about reciprocity. Keeping track of who invited who over last, and whose turn it is to have the party. Or keeping track of how much this person spent on your present so that when it is your turn to give them a present you can spend about the same amount. Or deciding who or who not to invite based on if they invited you over since the last time. I do it, so I am guessing others do it, too.
This teaching from Jesus really gets us outside of ourselves doing something totally for the sake of someone else, selfless giving and inviting so that someone else feels honored and valued. Which is what our text from Hebrews talks about when it says, "Do not neglect to show hospitality to strangers, for by doing that some have entertained angels without knowing it." One of my favorite songs is called Angels Unaware by Michael W. Smith, and really gets at these two texts, I think. We are often so focused on us and our own stuff that we neglect those around us. This is true at the grocery store, at work, at school events. Even on Sunday mornings as we gather for worship, we sit with our families, we talk with those we know, we look at the visitor and aren't quite sure how to interact, because maybe they aren't really new and I just don't recognize them.
Yet this is what Jesus teaches against - because it is not all about us. It is not all about status, or being fair, or even, or what others think. It is about love. Everything Jesus said and did points at this type of Kingdom love which gets us outside of ourselves and reaching out to others. I ponder how God calls me out of myself to love others, to live for others, to show hospitality to others. To help you ponder this mystery, I've included a 5-minute video of Michael W. Smith's song: